Hello. It’s Barb Earle Neurotransformational Coach and health and well-being expert on a mission to help you get to know your brain better and why it matters
Welcome to day ten in this month’s special edition entitled
Four Steps Boost Mental Health and shift your perspective—pandemic related or not!
I call it the Four Ps:
Pause. Perspective. Practise. Patience.
Today’s focus is the third question in the step called perspective.
How did it go yesterday? What was important to you? What other perspectives showed up?
Ready to dig a little deeper and look at the third question?
Let’s check-in. You’ve taken the time to pause and step back from the impact of stress. You’ve created a new perspective and it works for you.
Now what? Ask your self question number 3
What am I willing to do?
Wow, now we’re getting real. It’s time to turn your new perspective into new way of thinking and doing.
Before I expand on this, know that good decision making is a result of your effective thinking. No matter how many times it takes to get here, keep going.
Good decision making also maps out an optimistic, realistic direction for your future. And, it’s a big step away from being stuck in chaos or whatever emotion you experience in times of stress.
Alright, you’ve got this great perspective. It’s meaningful and important to you. Hold on to that, it feeds into your motivation to help hold on to a new perspective.
This is the part where accountability comes into play. A gentle reminder, shame and guilt do not come into play. Rather, seek out accountability with an accountability partner, one who will remind you and hold you accountable. Hire a coach to remind you of your intention.
Keep in mind this has a lot to do with neuroplasticity. The more you think and act in a certain way, the more it becomes a habit. So if you wish to curb your anxiety about a situation train your brain and body to think and act in the way you desire.
For example, I love being outdoors.
I value respect. And it irks me when people do not respect nature and they leave garbage behind. So whenever I read about it I get angry. Righteously angry. At one point I was going out of my way to look for news that verified my anger. It became useless and a waste of my time and energy. I paused. I named my emotion, modified my breath. I changed my perspective.
Instead of paying attention to these disrespectful others I started to pay attention to those who were doing something about it.
What was I willing to do?
Now when I do read about it, I think of those who volunteer their time to help clean up. And simply shake my head at those who do not comply. I don’t waste my energy anymore. The neural connection that was so righteous became weak at the same time my new thought and behaviour to supporting the volunteers became stronger. And it lead me to thinking that I could volunteer too. Less anger, more decisive thinking.
Your mission today is to pause, ask yourself the first two questions and then dive deep into this third question.
Let the neuroscience of your body and brain do the rest.
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